After recently coming out as genderqueer, I've begun a genderqueer transition (what does that even mean?). I've come out as genderqueer to all my closest friends, and I'm beginning to do so more publicly and openly; I've adopted the genderqueer pronouns ze/zan, and I'm starting to ask people to use them in most situations; I made myself a binder and purchased men's clothes in hopes of experimenting with a male and/or androgynous gender presentation and perhaps living part-time in a male gender role (is that even possible?). I am very uncertain about where this transition already went, where it's now going, or how "far" it will go in the future. In fact, I am scared this whole thing will be a huge failure. However, at this time, I don't know, and I am leaving it all up to fate, ready to see where it does and doesn't go as I embark on an amazing journey.
I am transitioning spatially - ie moving. I'm not quiet sure where or when, but I know I am ready to find a place of my own and to call it home. Within the next year, I will pack up my life and go somewhere else. This also means transitioning to a new level of independence, as the distance will mean that the place I call home will no longer be in the same state as the place my family currently calls home. I am scared, but I am ready. Much of this, too, is left up to destiny, also known as the admissions counselors at the universities to which I am applying to transfer.
I am transitioning out of two romantic relationships, one of which recently pummeled into heartbreak, and the other is disintegrating due to distance. Both of these have been very important, and they've had a huge influence on my life. They've also been filled with new experiences, especially sexually, that taught me a lot about myself, my identity (especially asexuality), and my relationships. I am unsure where my love life will take me from here, if anywhere, so it's all up to chance.
I am transitioning out of a very interesting time of self-exploration, self-discovery, and coming-out to a place where I am comfortable living with a queer sexual and romantic orientation that I've come to understand really well. Alongside my gender identity, I've realized that I reached a point where none of my future relationships will be as hetero-normative as those in the past: until recently, I identified primarily as a woman and partnered primarily (almost exclusively) with men. I am also transitioning out of a very life-changing year that opened up my mind to many new perspectives and completely changed my view of much of the world. I am learning how to live my life as the person I've become and the person I am becoming. This transitioning out of a period of transition really goes to show how transition never really begins, and never ends. So, here I am, in transition.
You want something that's constant,
And I only wanted to be me.
Even the stars above,
Things that seem still
Are still changing.
-- Still, Ben Folds